Home » eft tapping
Aspects of Trauma from Accidents
A therapist who is a newcomer to EFT poses the following question:
Question: What are your thoughts about the interval between a traumatic event and the appropriate use of EFT? My initial thoughts on this are that there has to be an appropriate interval to allow the mind to do its normal processing, and that the appropriate interval will vary, depending on the intensity of the trauma, circumstances etc. One of my clients was involved in a car accident earlier this year. It was sudden and shocking but not her fault, so there are no financial or legal repercussions. She was taken to the hospital but not detained.
There are some remaining but diminishing problems due to whiplash injury, but she has now lost much of her former confidence in driving, and at work. Before the accident she used to ride her horse, but is now too nervous to do so, and one of her main fears is being alone at home, she fears there might be an accident and no-one to help her. Could I treat each of her fears, which are well defined by her, as an Aspect, and seek to clear each one using EFT? I would appreciate your views on this.
EFT for Multiple Traumas
Interestingly, I have received questions from several different readers which address the same basic issue— the occurrence in these people's lives of one disaster after another, a pile-up of mishaps that have ranged from sudden death of someone near to that person, followed by crippling illness in another family member and subsequent loss of their own job and career, to another reader's experience of an assault against them with attempt to murder, followed by continuous stalking by the now released assailant and the occurrence of a subsequent life threatening illness to themselves which has rendered them unable to work and support themselves — and other overwhelmingly difficult situations that have occurred in people's lives, one after another. The basic question these people posed (not in identical words of course) was, "How can EFT help with this? Any ideas would be appreciated."
Using EFT with Family Members
Question: Is it useful to ese EFT with a family member?
This mother's asked question was too lengthy to reprint so I will summarize it here. She asks how she can use EFT to help her 19 year old son who has a serious history of drug abuse and was recently released from a short prison sentence. He is now on parole and feels deeply hopeless about his life. She tells us that she herself has used EFT to deal with her own concern about him, and that her son has "agreed to try EFT". We can not tell from the letter, however, just how genuine his agreement to try EFT is, or whether he just said "yes" to please his mother. The reader emphasizes that she cannot afford any kind of therapy for her son, and that EFT is her only hope. I answer as follows:
Question: I know that acupuncture can be used with animals. Do animals have comfort spots as well and can we use EFT with them?
Answer: Yes and some people are doing this with great success. To do so involves a certain degree of understanding and rapport with your animals but obviously many pet owners have this already. You use words and phrases said in a comforting voice to the animal. It doesn’t seem logical to most people to suggest to the animal that they deeply and completely accept themselves, but rather just to tell them that you love them. The animals seem to readily sense the meaning of what you say even if they don’t comprehend the exact words.
The tapping points used with animals are usually the inner eyebrow spot, the under eye spot and the under arm spot (the “under arm” for an animal being the back of the top of their foreleg). Some people who have used EFT with animals have found it more calming to the animal to simply hold the comfort spot or rub or stroke it gently rather than to tap (which may alarm a frightened or nervous animal). I have seen EFT calm animals remarkably quickly, and I think that this is a use of the method which we are going to see a great deal more of in the future.
Can EFT Be Used with Children?
Question: What about using EFT for children? It seems as though it would be very useful for them – but I can’t see how that could be done.
Answer: You can use EFT for children with wonderful effects; in fact, you can even use it with infants. In general, one introduces the tapping points as a kind of game with children and they thoroughly enjoy and respond to it. It is sometimes introduced to them as a “magic helper”. With children, however, the EFT phrases need to be altered somewhat.
Ann Adams, Director of a rehabilitation center for emotionally disturbed children in Atlanta, Georgia, has been using EFT with great success for children who have such severe behavior problems that the school system could not deal with, and they have been sent for residential care. These are usually children from severely disturbed homes, yet they typically respond with remarkable appreciation to the help that EFT can give them. It enables them to calm down, become more focused and better able to cope with the problems and challenges they face every day.
Ann uses variations of the Set-Up phrase such as, “I’m a wonderful kid (or boy or girl)” instead of “I deeply and completely accept myself.” This often works wonders for these children. If you are interested in using EFT with children, I suggest you read some of Ann’s accounts as well as some of the ways that others have used EFT with children—see the articles on using EFT with children.
Dr. Patricia Carrington, EFT Master
There are a number of experiences in childhood that can create fears about presenting new ideas to others. Here are some of them:
Unfortunately we learn some “lessons” that are better not learned at school, along with all the essential knowledge that this institution imparts. One of these can be a deep insecurity about presenting new and different ideas to others.
In my Expanding Personal Time: The Ultimate Time Management System, I teach you how to use EFT to set yourself free from the relentless pressure of “not enough time.” This technique has worked extremely well for many people, and it will hopefully work for you in exactly the same way.
Because I have seen the very undesirable consequences people often experience from the constraints of time, I want to share with you the opportunity to learn this new technique and apply it, whenever you are feeling that there is not enough time…
Set yourself free from the relentless pressure of “not enough time”, learn how to become the master of your deadlines, rather than allowing them to control your life, and how to enhance the quality of your life and your health significantly through introducing a sense of leisurely expansive time into your life.
“In ‘The Secrets of Intentional Wealth’ CD, EFT practitioner and success coach Margaret Lynch brings us a personal development course that is unquestionably among the best self-help materials I have ever encountered.
In order that you will know why this is so, let me share with you my personal experience when taking the course. I came to review it as part of my work in preparing this site and I thought that the course might bring me an opportunity for my own personal growth — that it might be coming to me at the right time. I had no idea what a powerful impact it would actually have.
I've often been asked whether EFT can be used to bring about desirable changes in the world outside of oneself to "manifest" what you want, as this activity is frequently referred to. My answer is both a "yes" and a "no".
We all know how effective EFT is when all is going well with it. The correct EFT statement often makes all the difference in the way we react to a given situation or person.
However, each of us sometimes comes up against a stubborn inner voice that says, “I won't!” (or something equally forceful) to indicate its refusal to comply with our conscious, well-intentioned suggestion. This “I won't!" can take place even while the EFT self-acceptance phrase (“I deeply and completely accept myself…”) is being repeated, or it can undermine any EFT Choices phrase you might make.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington, EFT Master
"I feel better now. It's okay." that person says as they prepare to leave your office (or home) with a word of thanks for your help. They have brought their stress level down from an initial 10 (on the 0 to 10 intensity scale) to a much more desirable number such as a 4, or perhaps a 3, after doing several rounds of EFT. They feel they "don't need any more".
As long as this human race has been on this planet, famine and shortages of food have caused anxiety to soar within us and drive us to seek food at the expense of our comfort, our sleep, and sometimes even our safety or our lives. Fear is a powerful motivator, so our instinct is to stock up on the food we have inside us – by eating as much of it as we can. Innately, we believe that a well stocked overweight person or animal will survive a famine better.
In this empowering EFT training for your mind you will learn how to:
"Tap-in" (install) new memories more effectively.
Use EFT to make unusually strong associations between any new piece of information and old familiar bits of information – a powerful memorizing aid.
"Tap-in" (install) positive Choices Phrases to create a new and more positive attitude toward memory recall.
Use EFT to help your memory to periodically restore its strength.
In my book, "Multiply the Power of EFT," I have described some new ways in which you can deal with pain by using EFT.
Today, I will talk about what I call "giving loving attention” to your pain by doing EFT, and how this can work to alleviate the pain and sometimes to effect actual healing of its underlying cause.
Sometimes the hardest word to say is "no". We want to be helpful. We want to give. We don't want to be selfish. We want to be asked again in the future. There are so many reasons to say "yes". What are the reasons to say "no"?
I was recently reminded of the remarkable effects of the EFT tactic that Gary Craig calls "Borrowing Benefits". He was telling about an experience he recalled from an EFT conference in Chicago several years ago.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
The Choices Method is a rapid highly targeted method for getting more precise results with Meridian Tapping. Correct?
Well, most of the time. Certainly the Choices method can cut right through resistance of the kind that may be encountered with the default self acceptance phrase "I deeply and completely accept myself", and go straight to the heart of the matter.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
So-called "resistance" to the EFT process such as not coming down in your intensity level after several rounds of tapping, not remembering to do EFT when it would serve you particularly well to do or feeling certain that EFT will "do no good" for a certain issue, and the like — is always frustrating.
by Gene Monterastelli
[Gene's Note: I am not a medical doctor. I am not qualified to provide medical advice or diagnosis. This article is provided for informational purposes only. Please consult with your primary care physician before making any changes to your health regimen.]
I have found that there are two ways we can improve the effectiveness of a medical implant, whether it be a lens implant in cataract surgery, the replacement of a limb, a pace maker, or any other form of surgical implant — by using Meridian Tapping.
One is by working with the implant directly, the other is by working with the energy created by the implant.
By Pamela Bruner
A question that I often receive from my Meridian Tapping clients is 'Do I need to go back into the past in order to move forward?' Then they go on to say, often, that they don't want to look at the past, they just want to move ahead.
As a coach, I have a great deal of sympathy for this position. Coaching, as opposed to therapy, is supposed to deal with the present and the future, and not with the past. But the answer to the question 'Do I need to deal with the past?' is more complex than that.
by Gene Monterastelli
I have found meridian tapping (of which EFT is an important form) to be a very powerful tool. I have used it to clean up a number of deep emotional issues, but have noticed a number of unusual sensations after doing a session.
by Patsy Anthony, Third and Fourth Grade Teacher
It's time to go back to school…
Those words can elicit a variety of emotions among children.
Unfortunately, not all of those emotions are positive.
What better time to introduce meridian tapping to your children than right now, during their first few weeks of school?
by Dr. Patricia Carrington
In the early 1990's Roger Callahan appeared on a radio show (I was listening to it at the time) and led a woman in tapping who had called into the show about her "absolutely uncontrollable" need to eat a chocolate cake which she had in front of her. Roger led her step by step over the airwaves to tap for this issue. The woman lost any interest in eating the cake. She was astounded. So was the host.
Deborah Dineen was a stranger to me when she phoned my office to ask how she could obtain some information about one of our educational products. At that moment I was manning the phones in my assistant’s absence and I felt drawn to talk with Deborah.
Sadness can be one of the most difficult emotions to use when doing meridian tapping. It really doesn't do it justice to tap on the phrase, "I feel sad."…
Andy Hunt, author of the book, "Getting Out Of Your Own Way – Finding and Releasing Unconscious Blocks with EFT," is an EFT & NLP Trainer and Practitioner living in the North East of England. Andy's EFT method of the 1% solution applies to actions we want to change and it can work brilliantly for that purpose. My use of a 1% solution, as taught in my book, Releasing with Pat, applies to emotions and attitudes that we want to change. Both these applications of the 1% principal can be extremely helpful. In both instances we are speaking about using “gradualness“ when approaching change.