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Question: Is it useful to ese EFT with a family member?
This mother's asked question was too lengthy to reprint so I will summarize it here. She asks how she can use EFT to help her 19 year old son who has a serious history of drug abuse and was recently released from a short prison sentence. He is now on parole and feels deeply hopeless about his life. She tells us that she herself has used EFT to deal with her own concern about him, and that her son has "agreed to try EFT". We can not tell from the letter, however, just how genuine his agreement to try EFT is, or whether he just said "yes" to please his mother. The reader emphasizes that she cannot afford any kind of therapy for her son, and that EFT is her only hope. I answer as follows:
Answer: While my ultimate recommendation (it is a strong one) is that you find a way to obtain (and somehow afford, I will address that issue later) the help of an EFT practitioner highly experienced in the kind of problems your son faces, in the meantime let me give you some recommendations for helping him now with EFT.
As his mother, you may face some difficulties doing this. Among them are the following:
— Since you are his mother, whatever childhood experiences may have contributed to his deep-seated problems, can all too easily be invoked by your presence, either directly or indirectly. It may therefore be extremely difficult for him to process many of these experiences with you, an objective professional would be in a much better position to help him here.
— Because you are his mother, he may be understandably reluctant to reveal to you many experiences he has had which nevertheless must be handled if EFT is to be effective for him. He may, for example, think that telling you certain things would upset you too much, or that telling you some things would incriminate him, or be afraid that you might blame him. Or he may simply be too ashamed to tell you about some of them.
For these reasons, any help you can give him using EFT would, in my opinion, probably need to be done without your asking him to reveal the contents of the memories or thoughts that he is tapping on. This can be a useful option in EFT but it is tricky to accomplish and usually requires a good deal of clinical skill. Properly used, however, the results of tapping without revealing what one is tapping on can be excellent.
If you plan to do this, I would suggest that you (or any readers who have not yet read it) read the account of how Rehana Webster handled a multiply traumatized recidivist offender using EFT, she did this without requiring him to reveal any of the traumatic incidents that he tapped on. You can read about this truly classic account of the use of EFT under initially extremely difficult circumstances (and with much skepticism on the part of the client at first), here.
If you read Rehana's account, notice particularly the eventual high motivation of her client to help himself with EFT. This is a key factor in the success that was reported. If your son wants to be helped by EFT and is willing to work at it by using it on himself, then there is a chance of his obtaining substantial results from it. But — – he must want this so strongly he is willing to go all out to get it.
For this reason, I think it a good starting place (if you want to use EFT to help your son) would be to have him tap on a phrase such as: "Even though I feel that my life is hopeless ("that nothing is any use," etc.), I choose to find unexpected help in EFT"
Before you have him do this however, ask him to give you a "Believability Rating" for the above statement. It would be on a zero to 10 point scale, where zero is "no belief in the possible help of EFT", and 10 is "total belief in EFT's ability to help me". After each round of EFT, he should reassess his Believability level –– it should be going UP on as the EFT progresses, hopefully approaching a 10.
After this, you might to have him tap on: "Even though I don't believe it will work, I choose to find a way to use EFT so it will really work for me."
These are only two are examples of how EFT might be used to introduce your son to the process. An experienced therapist could suggest many more uses of EFT, and your goal now should be to help your son find enough hope so that he can seek out a therapist himself, possibly with help from you. Telephone Therapy might be a good option.
With strong motivation to succeed in this, your son should be putting away some money towards paying for an EFT therapist to help in this, but you will probably need to help out with it at first, so here is what I would suggest that you tap on for yourself:
"Even though I can't possibly afford to spend a cent on our ((your son's name's) therapy, I choose to…", then add one of the following Choices:
"… I choose to find creative ways to raise the needed money for his therapy." Or,
"… I choose to know that my need to help pay for his therapy will be only temporary — until he can afford his own treatment" Or,
"… I choose to be open to new and unexpected possibilities for obtaining help for (your son's name)."
I hope these recommendations are useful.
Dr. Patricia Carrington, EFT Master
Question: I know that acupuncture can be used with animals. Do animals have comfort spots as well and can we use EFT with them?
Answer: Yes and some people are doing this with great success. To do so involves a certain degree of understanding and rapport with your animals but obviously many pet owners have this already. You use words and phrases said in a comforting voice to the animal. It doesn’t seem logical to most people to suggest to the animal that they deeply and completely accept themselves, but rather just to tell them that you love them. The animals seem to readily sense the meaning of what you say even if they don’t comprehend the exact words.
The tapping points used with animals are usually the inner eyebrow spot, the under eye spot and the under arm spot (the “under arm” for an animal being the back of the top of their foreleg). Some people who have used EFT with animals have found it more calming to the animal to simply hold the comfort spot or rub or stroke it gently rather than to tap (which may alarm a frightened or nervous animal). I have seen EFT calm animals remarkably quickly, and I think that this is a use of the method which we are going to see a great deal more of in the future.
Question: What about using EFT for children? It seems as though it would be very useful for them – but I can’t see how that could be done.
Answer: You can use EFT for children with wonderful effects; in fact, you can even use it with infants. In general, one introduces the tapping points as a kind of game with children and they thoroughly enjoy and respond to it. It is sometimes introduced to them as a “magic helper”. With children, however, the EFT phrases need to be altered somewhat.
Ann Adams, Director of a rehabilitation center for emotionally disturbed children in Atlanta, Georgia, has been using EFT with great success for children who have such severe behavior problems that the school system could not deal with, and they have been sent for residential care. These are usually children from severely disturbed homes, yet they typically respond with remarkable appreciation to the help that EFT can give them. It enables them to calm down, become more focused and better able to cope with the problems and challenges they face every day.
Ann uses variations of the Set-Up phrase such as, “I’m a wonderful kid (or boy or girl)” instead of “I deeply and completely accept myself.” This often works wonders for these children. If you are interested in using EFT with children, I suggest you read some of Ann’s accounts as well as some of the ways that others have used EFT with children—see the articles on using EFT with children.
Dr. Patricia Carrington, EFT Master
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
The Choices Method is a rapid highly targeted method for getting more precise results with Meridian Tapping. Correct?
Well, most of the time. Certainly the Choices method can cut right through resistance of the kind that may be encountered with the default self acceptance phrase "I deeply and completely accept myself", and go straight to the heart of the matter.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
So-called "resistance" to the EFT process such as not coming down in your intensity level after several rounds of tapping, not remembering to do EFT when it would serve you particularly well to do or feeling certain that EFT will "do no good" for a certain issue, and the like — is always frustrating.
One of the most frequent uses of EFT is to treat pain. Physicians, nurses, dentists and other health professionals have reported remarkable results when they have used EFT for both acute and chronic pain patients. In addition, many individuals have applied EFT successfully on their own to reduce or eliminate severe, sometimes crippling pain in themselves or others
This does not mean that EFT always works to reduce pain, it does not work in all cases or with all individuals, and clearly it should not be used in place of medical treatment. Because it is gentle and non-invasive, however, EFT seems well worth trying for most instances of pain and many times it works when nothing else does.
Read accounts of using EFT for pain to acquaint yourself with how it is applied for this purpose. Please realize, however, that these accounts are only a small sample of the uses that have actually been reported for pain. Others can be found by going to eftuniverse.com. New uses are constantly being reported.