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Question: Is it useful to ese EFT with a family member?
This mother's asked question was too lengthy to reprint so I will summarize it here. She asks how she can use EFT to help her 19 year old son who has a serious history of drug abuse and was recently released from a short prison sentence. He is now on parole and feels deeply hopeless about his life. She tells us that she herself has used EFT to deal with her own concern about him, and that her son has "agreed to try EFT". We can not tell from the letter, however, just how genuine his agreement to try EFT is, or whether he just said "yes" to please his mother. The reader emphasizes that she cannot afford any kind of therapy for her son, and that EFT is her only hope. I answer as follows:
Answer: While my ultimate recommendation (it is a strong one) is that you find a way to obtain (and somehow afford, I will address that issue later) the help of an EFT practitioner highly experienced in the kind of problems your son faces, in the meantime let me give you some recommendations for helping him now with EFT.
As his mother, you may face some difficulties doing this. Among them are the following:
— Since you are his mother, whatever childhood experiences may have contributed to his deep-seated problems, can all too easily be invoked by your presence, either directly or indirectly. It may therefore be extremely difficult for him to process many of these experiences with you, an objective professional would be in a much better position to help him here.
— Because you are his mother, he may be understandably reluctant to reveal to you many experiences he has had which nevertheless must be handled if EFT is to be effective for him. He may, for example, think that telling you certain things would upset you too much, or that telling you some things would incriminate him, or be afraid that you might blame him. Or he may simply be too ashamed to tell you about some of them.
For these reasons, any help you can give him using EFT would, in my opinion, probably need to be done without your asking him to reveal the contents of the memories or thoughts that he is tapping on. This can be a useful option in EFT but it is tricky to accomplish and usually requires a good deal of clinical skill. Properly used, however, the results of tapping without revealing what one is tapping on can be excellent.
If you plan to do this, I would suggest that you (or any readers who have not yet read it) read the account of how Rehana Webster handled a multiply traumatized recidivist offender using EFT, she did this without requiring him to reveal any of the traumatic incidents that he tapped on. You can read about this truly classic account of the use of EFT under initially extremely difficult circumstances (and with much skepticism on the part of the client at first), here.
If you read Rehana's account, notice particularly the eventual high motivation of her client to help himself with EFT. This is a key factor in the success that was reported. If your son wants to be helped by EFT and is willing to work at it by using it on himself, then there is a chance of his obtaining substantial results from it. But — – he must want this so strongly he is willing to go all out to get it.
For this reason, I think it a good starting place (if you want to use EFT to help your son) would be to have him tap on a phrase such as: "Even though I feel that my life is hopeless ("that nothing is any use," etc.), I choose to find unexpected help in EFT"
Before you have him do this however, ask him to give you a "Believability Rating" for the above statement. It would be on a zero to 10 point scale, where zero is "no belief in the possible help of EFT", and 10 is "total belief in EFT's ability to help me". After each round of EFT, he should reassess his Believability level –– it should be going UP on as the EFT progresses, hopefully approaching a 10.
After this, you might to have him tap on: "Even though I don't believe it will work, I choose to find a way to use EFT so it will really work for me."
These are only two are examples of how EFT might be used to introduce your son to the process. An experienced therapist could suggest many more uses of EFT, and your goal now should be to help your son find enough hope so that he can seek out a therapist himself, possibly with help from you. Telephone Therapy might be a good option. He will need to work with a practitioner experienced in treating addictions, however. Most of the practitioner's on the EFT Certificate of Completion Practitioner's list give their experience with various clinical conditions together with other information about their practices, so you will have a good idea of their backgrounds.
With strong motivation to succeed in this, your son should be putting away some money towards paying for an EFT therapist to help in this, but you will probably need to help out with it at first, so here is what I would suggest that you tap on for yourself:
"Even though I can't possibly afford to spend a cent on our ((your son's name's) therapy, I choose to…", then add one of the following Choices:
"… I choose to find creative ways to raise the needed money for his therapy." Or,
"… I choose to know that my need to help pay for his therapy will be only temporary — until he can afford his own treatment" Or,
"… I choose to be open to new and unexpected possibilities for obtaining help for (your son's name)."
I hope these recommendations are useful.
Dr. Patricia Carrington, EFT Master
Question: I know that acupuncture can be used with animals. Do animals have comfort spots as well and can we use EFT with them?
Answer: Yes and some people are doing this with great success. To do so involves a certain degree of understanding and rapport with your animals but obviously many pet owners have this already. You use words and phrases said in a comforting voice to the animal. It doesn’t seem logical to most people to suggest to the animal that they deeply and completely accept themselves, but rather just to tell them that you love them. The animals seem to readily sense the meaning of what you say even if they don’t comprehend the exact words.
The tapping points used with animals are usually the inner eyebrow spot, the under eye spot and the under arm spot (the “under arm” for an animal being the back of the top of their foreleg). Some people who have used EFT with animals have found it more calming to the animal to simply hold the comfort spot or rub or stroke it gently rather than to tap (which may alarm a frightened or nervous animal). I have seen EFT calm animals remarkably quickly, and I think that this is a use of the method which we are going to see a great deal more of in the future.
There are a number of experiences in childhood that can create fears about presenting new ideas to others. Here are some of them:
Unfortunately we learn some “lessons” that are better not learned at school, along with all the essential knowledge that this institution imparts. One of these can be a deep insecurity about presenting new and different ideas to others.
In my Expanding Personal Time: The Ultimate Time Management System, I teach you how to use EFT to set yourself free from the relentless pressure of “not enough time.” This technique has worked extremely well for many people, and it will hopefully work for you in exactly the same way.
Because I have seen the very undesirable consequences people often experience from the constraints of time, I want to share with you the opportunity to learn this new technique and apply it, whenever you are feeling that there is not enough time…
Set yourself free from the relentless pressure of “not enough time”, learn how to become the master of your deadlines, rather than allowing them to control your life, and how to enhance the quality of your life and your health significantly through introducing a sense of leisurely expansive time into your life.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington, EFT Master
"I feel better now. It's okay." that person says as they prepare to leave your office (or home) with a word of thanks for your help. They have brought their stress level down from an initial 10 (on the 0 to 10 intensity scale) to a much more desirable number such as a 4, or perhaps a 3, after doing several rounds of EFT. They feel they "don't need any more".
Let me introduce myself. I am a Success Coach. Do you know what that means? My guess is that you don’t, which is why it this title carries a striking marketing advantage to those who qualify for adopting it. One of these might well be you!
These researchers studied ninety-six overweight or obese adults, one half of whom were taught EFT right away, while the other half had to wait for four weeks while just doing whatever they ordinarily did to control food cravings. At the end of this time, the "wait list" group was given training in EFT too, but they had already been thoroughly studied by that time. The "wait list" group was the control (comparison) group.
What were the researchers looking for?
Before the research began, they gave the subjects a series of tests to determine the intensity of their food cravings and measure how strong an influence food exerted over them (that is, its "pull" value). The researchers also investigated the degree of f restraint these people could call upon when faced with tempting food, and the number of psychological symptoms of stress they were exhibiting. Finally, everyone in the study was initially measured to determine their BMI (Body Mass Index), an indication of the way the body stores and distributes fat — the lower the BMI, the healthier the fat deposits of the individual.
After that, and this makes the study particularly interesting, these same subjects were studied again at the end of 12 months.
What had happened?
When re-tested at the end of four weeks, those who had learned EFT showed significantly lowered food cravings compared to the wait list controls that had not learned the method. At that time, the EFT’ers also had improved significantly in the degree to which they could exercise restraint when confronted by tempting foods, and the degree to which food could exert a pulling power over them.
What is particularly interesting was that two of the measures, the intensity of food cravings and the pull of the food on them, remained significantly improved at the end of one year in those who had been practicing EFT, demonstrating the holding power of this technique. Also, the Body Mass Index (BMI) the measure of the body's storage of fat was significantly reduced in those practicing EFT at the end of one year: a highly desirable outcome.
The results of this study show that EFT can have an immediate effect on reducing food cravings and also result in maintenance of these reduced cravings over time. In addition it shows that EFT impacts favorably on The Body Mass Index, reducing it in the desired direction. The researchers suggest that EFT may contribute to the ability of weight loss/dieting programs to assist people to achieve reduced food cravings and therefore lose weight.
* Stapleton, Sheldon, Porter
* In Press, Behavior Change journal.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
As long as this human race has been on this planet, famine and shortages of food have caused anxiety to soar within us and drive us to seek food at the expense of our comfort, our sleep, and sometimes even our safety or our lives. Fear is a powerful motivator, so our instinct is to stock up on the food we have inside us – by eating as much of it as we can. Innately, we believe that a well stocked overweight person or animal will survive a famine better.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
In my book, "Multiply the Power of EFT," I have described some new ways in which you can deal with pain by using EFT.
Today, I will talk about what I call "giving loving attention” to your pain by doing EFT, and how this can work to alleviate the pain and sometimes to effect actual healing of its underlying cause.
Sometimes the hardest word to say is "no". We want to be helpful. We want to give. We don't want to be selfish. We want to be asked again in the future. There are so many reasons to say "yes". What are the reasons to say "no"?
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
The Choices Method is a rapid highly targeted method for getting more precise results with Meridian Tapping. Correct?
Well, most of the time. Certainly the Choices method can cut right through resistance of the kind that may be encountered with the default self acceptance phrase "I deeply and completely accept myself", and go straight to the heart of the matter.
by Gene Monterastelli
[Gene's Note: I am not a medical doctor. I am not qualified to provide medical advice or diagnosis. This article is provided for informational purposes only. Please consult with your primary care physician before making any changes to your health regimen.]
I have found that there are two ways we can improve the effectiveness of a medical implant, whether it be a lens implant in cataract surgery, the replacement of a limb, a pace maker, or any other form of surgical implant — by using Meridian Tapping.
One is by working with the implant directly, the other is by working with the energy created by the implant.
By Pamela Bruner
A question that I often receive from my Meridian Tapping clients is 'Do I need to go back into the past in order to move forward?' Then they go on to say, often, that they don't want to look at the past, they just want to move ahead.
As a coach, I have a great deal of sympathy for this position. Coaching, as opposed to therapy, is supposed to deal with the present and the future, and not with the past. But the answer to the question 'Do I need to deal with the past?' is more complex than that.
by Gene Monterastelli
I have found meridian tapping (of which EFT is an important form) to be a very powerful tool. I have used it to clean up a number of deep emotional issues, but have noticed a number of unusual sensations after doing a session.
by Patsy Anthony, Third and Fourth Grade Teacher
It's time to go back to school…
Those words can elicit a variety of emotions among children.
Unfortunately, not all of those emotions are positive.
What better time to introduce meridian tapping to your children than right now, during their first few weeks of school?
by Dr. Patricia Carrington
In the early 1990's Roger Callahan appeared on a radio show (I was listening to it at the time) and led a woman in tapping who had called into the show about her "absolutely uncontrollable" need to eat a chocolate cake which she had in front of her. Roger led her step by step over the airwaves to tap for this issue. The woman lost any interest in eating the cake. She was astounded. So was the host.
Sadness can be one of the most difficult emotions to use when doing meridian tapping. It really doesn't do it justice to tap on the phrase, "I feel sad."…
I cannot tell you how often people have told me that they simply cannot conceive of forgiving some other person for destructive acts that person has done –– even if they have tried using EFT for this problem. They feel that to do this would be paying mere lip service to the concept of "forgiveness", it would not come from their heart.
Sandi Radomski's classic DVD Allergy Antidotes – EFT Treatment of Allergies – is an excellent introduction to the fundamental techniques for you to use to help yourself, your friends and family with troublesome allergic reactions. This DVD features Sandi Radomski's 2 hour presentation and demonstration of EFT for treating allergies, made at Gary Craig's 2003 EFT conference in Flagstaff, AZ.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
I’m sure you’ve heard it said that boredom can put on weight. People are known to eat unwisely when they are bored. You’ve also probably heard that being anxious can put on weight. People often eat comfort foods to calm themselves.
But – feelings of ANGER? What can anger possibly have to do with overeating and putting on unwanted pounds?
by Dr. Patricia Carrington
I've given much thought to my own experience of using EFT with depressed clients. At the of this writing about 90% of my clients used EFT during a portion of practically every one of their therapy sessions. Although I never articulated this before, there was a pattern in the reaction to EFT in those clients who have been depressed.
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
From time to time I have written about ways in which EFT can be very helpful when we want to get to sleep and can’t seem to. Recently, I have discovered an additional way to do this which I find extremely useful. You may want to try a variation of it at those moments when you want to get to sleep quickly.
Carol combines cutting edge information from the field of vibrational medicine and advanced applications of EFT throughout these 3 DVDs from her Denver workshop, “A Vibrational Approach to Healing Pain and Illness.” Tap along as Carol works with audience members on issues of pain, illness and complicated diagnoses and watch as she unravels the links between past emotional conflicts and current physical limitations.
4 hours of advanced EFT with EFT Master Carol Look:
- Clearing Ancestral Pain
- The “DOWNSIDE” of Getting Well Again
- Releasing Conflicts Stored in Your Body
- PLUS Special 90 minute “Bonus DVD” with trauma specialist, Dr. Robert Scaer, author of “Your Body Bears the Burden.”
A first of its kind for children, this Album introduces EFT to the child in a heartwarming and playful way. Created by EFT Master, Dr. Patricia Carrington, it gives you a unique opportunity to share the EFT Tapping process with your child and get them started using EFT with excitement and enthusiasm right away.
This Album contains a DVD, a CD, and a full Instruction booklet, that together skillfully:
· Introduces the child to EFT and its concepts
· Explain the process in a fun way.
· Shows the Tapping points to the child with the help of a loveable stuffed bear “role model” named Tappy
· Uses songs and lyrics to get the child to Tap along.
· Provides adults with helpful resources and instructions on using the album for children.
By Ann Adams
Kinney is tall for 13. He has light brown hair and a pair of sad eyes that competed for the saddest I've ever seen. He expressed immediate interest: "Can you teach me?"
"Harvey," a slender, African American nine year old in perpetual motion, was in line behind him: I want to know too.